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WhatsApp group etiquette

WhatsApp’s group function has to be one of the most useful yet frustrating functions the app offers, giving users an easy way to communicate with multiple people at the same time – whether planning a surprise party or a weekend away. 

However, if you’re like me, you probably belong to a long list of groups – most of which are no longer used – but feel obligated to stay in them due to the fear of offending someone.

As I sit and scroll through the many groups I belong to, there is one that includes my family who lives overseas, one consists of a group of my friends, one is for roller derby, and the fourth for work. Note, these are just a few of the many groups sitting in my archive folder.

Honestly, I don’t really mind being added to groups, if they serve a purpose and they are not overused. But, for those who are interested in the reasons I don’t like being part of groups, I have created a list:

  • They are distracting, which is not ideal when you are work,
  • Excessive activity has a negative impact on both your battery life and data consumption,
  • The photos and videos sent in the group save to your phone automatically, clogging up much-needed space.

So for all of those people who feel like I do, here is a list of WhatsApp etiquette tips we should all follow.

My WhatsApp etiquette tips:

  1. Ask someone if they mind being added to the group before you add them.
  2. Keep the messages relevant to the reason you created the group in the first place. There is nothing worse than a group that was intended for one thing (eg. to plan a bachelorette), to be used for something else (eg. to talk about how annoying your boss is).
  3. Do not spam the group. Try to type out your message as one long paragraph instead of breaking it up into sentences. We are all guilty of doing this sometimes – me included – and it can be annoying getting five messages that could have been combined into one.
  4. Don’t be offended if someone leaves your group. I am often added to groups that I leave almost immediately, simply because I am already part of so many groups. I then choose to message the creator to explain why I left so I don’t seem rude. Being a part of so many groups that receive so many messages wears your phone battery down, can be distracting and can interrupt your day.
  5. If you are a person who wants to leave a group, just say so – nicely – either before leaving or message them like I do after I have left.
  6. Don’t create huge groups/add a group of strangers to a close-knit group of people. When I am added to a group of people I don’t know, I feel uncomfortable, never talk to any of them and inevitably leave.
  7. Don’t have one-on-one conversations in a group. Rather switch to a private message so the rest of the group doesn’t receive every single notification.
  8. Don’t send data-insensitive messages – such as GIFs, memes, etc – as they could end up using someone’s last GB of data.
  9. Limit the number of messages, photographs and GIFs sent to the group daily. All of these use up not only data, but your phone’s battery and your time. By limiting activity altogether, you ensure that no one’s battery will go flat faster than it usually would and no one runs out of data.

Hopefully, these WhatsApp etiquette tips will not only help you when you need to create a group in the future, but help you manage your next WhatsApp group in a way that will keep everyone relatively happy.

Personally, WhatsApp groups are just another distraction, as there is usually no end to the conversation. The notifications popping up on my screen throughout the day only help me procrastinate, and I find it hard to switch off as the never ending notifications continue to peak my curiosity.

If we all took note of the etiquette tips above, it would make using groups more bearable, and it would certainly make me moan less about my phone.

What do you think? Do you like WhatsApp groups? How many groups do you belong to? What makes you leave a group? Let me know in the comment section below!

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  • Reply Jeanne

    Amazing post I detest groups and leave anything unnecessary immediately. Thank you for writing this .

    November 16, 2018 at 7:59 am
  • Reply Brian Little

    Great blog post my darling. All my love. Bri-Bri. X

    November 15, 2018 at 3:19 pm
  • Reply Bianca Erasmus

    Jurie belonged to about 7 work groups last year. Messages starting at 6 in the morning till about 11 at night. So little work was discussed! I got a way that messages don’t pop up and groups go mute immediately!

    November 15, 2018 at 3:08 pm
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